Alright, so here you are, solo in 2024, still holding onto that hopeless romantic title. You’re still out there, believing in love at first sight, preaching about genuine heart-to-hearts, and insisting that settling down isn’t just some over-hyped fad. Hey, at least you’re consistent, right?
Just when you think you’re cruising along, minding your own business, BAM! Social media sneaks up from behind like a stealthy ninja, delivering a knockout blow. And what’s the verdict? “Nope, forget relationships, it’s all about those ‘situationships’ now.” Talk about a plot twist worthy of a rom-com sequel!
So what is a situationship?
According to Women’s Health, “a situationship is a romantic arrangement that exists before/without defining the relationship conversation”. So it’s not a booty call, not friends with benefits but more something in between a relationship & friendship.
Why people nowadays choose a situationship over a relationship?
One of the most quoted reason is that ” the need of exploration before (maybe) committing to a relationship.”
Nowadays, it seems people want to fast-forward through the endless stages of getting to know someone. It’s like, “oh you seem great and you are really attractive but…” That but could mean lots of stuff: ” I just want to see you naked”, ” I don’t want to be exclusive” or ” I have a relationship already but I want to try something new”.
Another reason is the influence of the hookup culture.. It’s easy to swipe left… or right, and to have MANY options.
But is this enough in life? Is love a commodity nowadays? Is this concept so overrated? And is sex now just an exercise, like you are going to the gym? Nowadays, swiping is part of the normality, it’s more like a.. well, you are going to the town centre and you start cake testing. Are we in the mood for the richness of chocolate, the sweetness of strawberry, or the simplicity of vanilla?
Are there any perks to having one of these almost-relationships?
After some extensive research (read: asking a few friends over a questionable amount of cocktails), the consensus is that, yes, there are a few surprising benefits.
First off, maybe you’re fresh out of a breakup and your heart is as fragile as a soap bubble. Diving into another full-on relationship might feel like attempting a marathon with a hangover. Enter the situationship: the perfect middle ground where you can enjoy the company without committing to coupledom.
Or perhaps your brain is so jam-packed with work, hobbies, and that endless list of shows to binge-watch that you can’t fathom fitting another person into your life right now. Situationships let you enjoy the fun parts of dating without needing to remember anniversaries or, heaven forbid, meeting their parents.
What’s the problem with situationships, then?
Well, even if these situationships tick all the boxes for emotional connection, physical intimacy, and companionship, they’re like the Wi-Fi at your favorite coffee shop—great when it works, but with no guarantee it’ll stick around. The problem arises when one person starts dreaming of ‘forever,’ while the other is perfectly content with ‘for now.’
Sure, you might start off in a blissfully undefined zone with no titles, rules, or expectations. But here’s the kicker: people aren’t robots (despite what your ex’s texting habits might suggest). Feelings can change faster than the weather, and suddenly, what was once a fun fling feels like a precarious tightrope walk over a pit of emotional crocodiles.
In the end, whether you’re all in on the situationship train or prefer the stability of a traditional relationship, it’s all about what makes you happy. Situationships can offer a delightful mix of connection and freedom, perfect for those in transitional phases or just not ready for full-on commitment. But be warned: they come with their own set of challenges, especially when hearts and minds start wanting different things.
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